I have started a new blog at http://www.myanxietystruggle.com and in this article I am trying to define happiness.
In my point of view happiness is one such thing which all of us are looking for irrespective of the work we are doing, things we want to achieve and whether we are in some relationship. We are looking happiness through money, through people, through some assets and everyone has their own way of looking at happiness.
If you ask someone a question that why you want success? Their answer would be to achieve happiness for them or for their family. So everyone is looking for this one word happiness. But the irony is that everybody in this world experience happiness momentarily i.e. for a particular period of time and the main reason behind this irony is that people feels that happiness is something which is dependent on achieving something or getting something.
Our happiness is dependent on something outside i.e. our desires comes from outside world. For example “I will feel good only when I get this particular thing”, now it is clear that I will only feel good when I get some particular thing or my happiness is dependent on that particular thing.
The main reason for this thinking is our belief system which says that when something is done and it’s done in a right way then i will feel happy or I am doing this so that I feel happy. You can trace back to your childhood and you will find many examples where this belief system has come into play. Your parents have trained you to feel that when you get good marks I will feel happy, when you perform better I will feel happy etc.
Our happiness is dependent on outside objects like if I buy a car I will feel happy, if I buy some property I will feel happy and many more such things. You have to remember one thing that all these objects will give you physical comfort but not happiness. We have conditioned ourselves in such a way that we have assumed comfort as happiness and that’s not true.
In order to achieve happiness all the time you have to first believe that happiness is a state of mind and it has nothing to do with any outside objects or things. Anxiety is also a state of mind and you always have an option to choose happiness over anxiety. Believe in yourself and it will create miracles for you.