Okay , this is my second try on doing this as my first one messd up.
Well, here it goes I guess.. I hope it helps or something.
Its November 28th, and I'm hoping away tomrrow with my other half for the first time just me and her. Honestly, it's been so damn hurt for me and her. Even though I'm the one with the anxiety. Soo, I was diagnosed with anxiety a few months ago. Argh, an boy has it been rough. I find it hard to do a lot of this normaly, but this has made it even more harder then it should. It put a lot of stress on my girl and it was hard cause I needed her.
Most days I'd wake up hours before she did an cry and cry and just cry, I couldn't cope. She didn't understand and I wouldn't talk to her at all about it. All I did was shout at her, cry, kinda sleep and drink all the time. She would not touch me, talk to me or anything. It hurt a lot to see and feel this happen. But it's been about a month now :))
Things have got sorted out, now that she understand , we talk about it now. We are better then ever and she is prefect for me. She sees right though me and she is always holding my hand though everything. Honestly, SHE HAS SAVED MY LIFE. What I'm trying to say is that, I know there is some of you out there with partners. Yes okay I'm not gonna lie you might be with one them people that well, is gonna leave you because of your anxiety. Maybe cause they don't understand or whatever. . But if you are one there people out there, still with that person you love and are having a hard time and it feels like hell or u have just come out that bad place with them.
Fight though it!! It's worth it. If others tell you that person loves you and everything you do no matter what. They not run away yet, jugs have a think to your self?
Do I love them?
Are they supporting me?
Are they right in front of you now?
Then they most likely love you and wanna be there and help you though it. Remember, anxiety is an illness of the mind and only you control your mind. Stay positive and keep smiling everyday. It will all be worth it in the end for you. Do it for yourself. No one else.
tip before I go: don't push that loved one away. I know it's hurt but it's worth it in the end. They love you.
These past few days have actually been a lot better. When the first trigger begins, I just tell myself: "I'm okay. I can survive this. It's a stupid attack and you shouldn't even be having one, or letting it control you. Just breathe."
Once that montra gets into my head, most of the time, I can get through the first jitters, tremors, etc without having a full blowing panic attack.
I also talked to my friends about my anxiety and was extremely open with them about it. I think that talking about my anxiety really helped me accept the fact that I have it.
2012-08-17 -- 2012-08-18
josh got home last night around 9pm. i was sitting on the couch with a book in my hand called "coping with social anxiety" he walks in with a smile :) get a hug and kiss, i always ask about how his day was, stressful he said, i hate seeing him stressed. plus our car is about to take sh*t, i heard it squeak into the garage. he's a big computer guy and loves anything and everything to with computers :) (hes my tech guy) he went into the computer room to finish fixing some guys computer, i go into our bedroom, watch tv, check facebook..our usual routine lol ..he walks in telling me he likes that i made an account for this anxiety site :) and he wants to help with this horrible disorder. i had this look on my face and he could tell something was wrong, he said"whats wrong baby"? and i start getting teary eyed, you'll just say "ohhh gosh" (rolling my eyes) tell me he said,................. i have bad anxiety about your brothers birthday party on Sunday, his brother is 6 and its a chucky cheeses but his dads side is super judgmental and i always have anxiety attacks around them. i said i want you to comfort me like at the last event we had to go to :) he calls it the "A bug" it eats at me when im anxious and we have to kill it before it gets worse, so he distracts me to calm down, etc. (i stop crying & he stops wiping my tears) he says i love you sweetie, this anxiety is so hard for you isnt it? i know how it feels.... i take my sleeping pill and try to finish my show that was recored on the DVR before i pass the heck out lol.... i love that he understands some what :)
i love my fiance <3
I KNOW I CANT GET THROUGH THIS! :)
ONE DAY AT A TIME!
I would like to share my story with you all in hopes that it may help with your own situation. Allow me to explain a little about myself. I am 28 years old and have been suffering from anxiety pretty much my entire life. It wasn't until I was a teenager in highschool that I found out what social anxiety disorder was. I suffer from social anxiety disorder, generalized anxiety, a mild form of agoraphobia and bouts of depression.
completely withdrew from life and only went from work to home and that was it. I joined a group for people with Social Anxiety disorder on Facebook and saw a link to Anxiety Social Network and immediately it was like I had found my life line. When I joined I was severely depressed finding it hard to get out of bed most days. The best way I can describe the way I was feeling was disappointed that I was alive and looking for a way out. I thought about suicide constantly as my mind was filled with nothing but thoughts of ending my pain. I decided that I had to do something or I was going to end up dying by my own hand. I am introverted by nature and value my privacy very highly and I don't really confide in anyone. For some reason, after joining ASN I started to open up to the people here like I never thought was possible.
I used my real name, location and picture and decided that being honest and open about everything was the best way to deal with this since I hide it from people in my "waking" life. No one really knew how debilitating my anxiety was or how greatly effected by it I was. No one knew how diminished my life had become and just how deep and dark my depression was. I describe it as a black whole that was draining the life out of me and I felt there was no way out and no escape. One of my biggest fears was just addressing the problem. I felt like once I confronted it, it was real and I was trapped underneath the weight of it. With the encouragement and support I found at ASN slowly over time I was able to talk openly and freely about it.
I updated my status about the way I was feeling and wrote in my diary about things I could never say to anyone else at least not face to face. The members of ASN were so supportive and encouraging that I starting gaining back my will to live. Just knowing that other people truly understood how I felt and seeing them overcoming their fears gave me hope. I no longer wanted to die. I wanted to live and give myself a chance at happiness. I took the first big step in my journey with anxiety and made a doctors appointment to talk to them about it. I have begun to confide more in the people in my life ranging from family to friends. I would have never had the courage to do that had it not been for ASN. This community has truly saved my life and I do not know what would have become of me if I hadn't found this site. Hopefully if you are reading this it will give you some hope as well. While this anxiety will never go away we can manage it and get through it. We can't do it alone but together we are unstoppable.