"Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are too busy living our fears." Les Brown Recently, I started blogging about my social anxiety disorder. I also started posting some original songs online.  My original thought - YIKES! As someone who has suffered from severe social anxiety disorder since the age of 10, the idea of blogging about it seemed like an interesting dillemma. Yes - I would love to get my story out there, if only because I myself would have gained a lot from reading it when I was younger. But No - I can't put myself out there, everyone will judge me, and who am I to think that anyone will care, people will just think I'm full of it and be annoyed. At the end of the day, probably very few people will even know that it's out there. Yes, a lot of my friends have been suddenly enlightened to the fact that this disorder even exists, but on the upside, they now understand why I usually have an excuse not to go to their parties, and maybe, just maybe one or two of them have recognised the same traits in themselves and may look at others in a new light. I am a singer, and I love to sing and write music, but until this past month, I have NEVER let anyone hear what I write, let alone put it online for all to access. I guess though, that I've come to…

Agoraphobia can be devilitating but there are many treatments available!   We define agoraphobia as a form ofAnxiety disorder. There is some controversy regarding the word “Agoraphobia”. In the literal sense of the word, agoraphobia means a fear of “open spaces” This does not provide a complete and appropriate understanding of the term. Agoraphobia refers to a relentless anxiety condition arising out of illogical and disabling fears. Open spaces don’t necessarily cause fear in people affected with agoraphobia. But such people are somewhat haunted by fear getting panic attacks and the affected persons may suffer panic attacks either in public places like temples, crowded market areas or at home. So to be more precise, Agoraphobia is marked by extreme fear arising out of circumstances wherein an escape seems impossible or where there is no availability of any help in case of a panic attack.   A group of certain feared activities may result in Agoraphobia. An individual affected with agoraphobia may find it extremely difficult to drive a vehicle, or to travel in a vehicle; to stand on a bridge, in a queue, in a crowd and to be away from home. These persons are always troubled by an unknown fear of an impending danger and often get panic attacks. Causes of agoraphobia   Medical professionals ascribe many factors that cause agoraphobia. If a people are exposed to anxiety aggravating events that recur again, they may develop agoraphobia. Such events cause an intense fear often leaving an indelible impression on that individual’s mind.…

My Journey is still going, but in truth I had my darkest days and moments where I thought it would never get better, never seem better. Faith is something that everyone says you should have and in reality even if not in a religious sense it is all about self belief- I know I can, be what I want to be- If I work hard at it Ill be where I want to be. I have kept pushing and often have the dark days of being fed up, fed up of medication, fed up of being ill, tired, run down, physically and emotionally exhausted and then i think about how selfish it makes me to feel so concerned about trivial things- then I scold myself for telling myself off. If you are reading this then you like me, have suffered and had a bad time of it, life dealt you a shoddy hand but you kept taking a new card from the pack, you havent folded yet- neither have I. We have a right to feel upset when something bad happens to us or even because of how we are- but we must never let that feeling prolong and we must try to encourage a more positive thought volcabulary 'I can, I will, I want to...' not I cant I ll fail or its because Im rubbish.  Self beration is a waste of energy and thouhts and its a waste of time, you need to think of the worst case…

Acceptance as an Orientation towards Anxiety Sweat trickling down, chest discomfort and heart pounding – anxiety is a very real thing. Of the many things I have learned through anxiety, it is this that strikes me as the most curious: To accept is to change.   That has real-life implication for me. And little did I know that will also change the way I view the world.   But back to social anxiety. I refused anxiety. I guess, like most of the people, I am trying to escape what is painful. I will not deny it – anxiety is a very painful experience for me. I have tried – psyching myself that I am not anxious, telling myself that I can deal with this. It worked – in the short term. But it soon crumbled. It was an uphill battle. For most days, I would sit down and try to collect myself, inspiring myself with that Japanese, “Ganbatte!” only to have it wilting as soon as I feel that nervous twitch that I was so familiar with.   What I did not realized was that underlying all these, was a set of beliefs that I held. And through reading, discussions and much self-reflection, I, like many others, have come to the following insights.   First, I realized that anxiety need not restrict us in what we do. We may feel anxious at certain things – but that should not stop us from doing what is necessary. I was told that…

As I watch students pass by our busy street, I was curious of what do they have in mind that they can go wherever they want effortlessly? It is peace of mind. As they walk, they are not troubled by any danger/social/ anxiety/panic problems in specific along their way. They are not worrying a thing. So what’s causing me to worry when I go out? It’s because of the trauma, bad experiences that we encountered. We are sadden, ashamed, disappointed of how we reacted or felt in the past. Worrying about the past only makes you preoccupied about it in this present moment and keeps you from moving on. It’s time to move on. It’s time to change. We deserve to smile and be happy. There is this fact that those stars at night the one star we are looking now actually don’t exist anymore. It has already exploded or collapsed only that its light has taken so long to get to us. It’s like our past experiences. We are worrying and watchful about it. We might not know but it may be already gone.Go out and find out if it’s gone. Deciding to go is important. You can feel this inner will, self confidence, self esteem and strength shining through you if you have already decided. You know you can do this. I know it’s hard at first and those times you have panicked again. Difficult doesn't mean impossible. It simply means that you have to work hard. You…

Some Facts on Why a Panic Attack Can't Really Kill You   Your panic attack cannot kill you. Of all the things I have learned, this is by far the most crucial. When you are in that moment of panic, your heart is racing, your mind is lost, you're having trouble breathing, and you may feel like you're going to die. When I had my first major panic attack, I thought I was about to die. I was literally saying my good-byes to the world as I paced back and forth in my bathroom at 5am. I awoke my wife, unsure if I was going to be saying good-bye to her forever or having her drive me to the ER. But upon waking (and scaring the Hell out of her) I was able to get some comfort and began to calm down. It soon passed and a state of confusion took over for the fear. I will get to that in another post. But, although I sure felt like this must be the end for me, it surely wasn't. This was years ago and I am still alive and kicking. Your panic attack simply does not have the ability to kill you. I will explain why. The panic attack is created entirely by you. It may seem to be triggered by outside factors, but really it is all coming from your amygdala, a primal part of your brain that controls feelings such at the fight-or-flight response. If you have an…

Opposite Actionas a Way to Deal With Anxiety   Opposite Action is a term I see thrown around a lot lately and one that I find very interesting. I have been applying aspects of this for some time without even realizing that is what I was doing. I want to discuss opposite action here because it some great applications to anxiety and panic attacks. What is "Opposite Action"? It's really a very simple concept. When you begin to feel anxious, your first instinctual reaction is usually something very counter-productive. Your primal fight-or-flight response kicks in and your actions will often fuel the panic further. By consciously taking the opposite route you have a much better chance at reducing that anxious response before it blows up into a full blown panic attack. Example: My number one panic trigger is interstate driving. I tend to get very anxious when driving on highways (although I absolutely love to travel. Ironic, huh?). When I start to get anxious while driving my first instincts are to turn down the radio, slow down and move into the slow lane, and get really fidgety. I start pulling on my seat-belt because the source of many of the physical symptoms of anxiety are in my chest and I feel constrained by the seat-belt. I will reach for the shifting handle even though my car has an automatic transmission. I drove a stick-shift for many years and I suppose that control gave me some comfort. My mind now associates…

How to Deal with Anxiety Attack at Night   Lack of sleep can make anyone lose focus during daytime; some people become very irritable and do not have the energy to do any progressive work. Sleep lost is attributed to some mental and physical conditions. Sometimes people with certain ailments find it hard to sleep. In some cases stress and depression also causes lack of sleep. Anxiety attacks at night are very possible for those people who are very stressed in their everyday lives. Body and mental fatigue can trigger anxiety in anyone, especially those who have quite weak personalities. Chronic anxiety attacks can be experienced at night when the condition is not properly diagnosed and treated.   Common Reasons Why anyone can Experience Anxiety Attacks at Night:   Chemical imbalance causes anxiety attacks at night. If the brain can not release enough serotonin for the body, chemical imbalance occurs. Serotonin is a substance responsible for the body to stay clam and relax; without adequate supply of this substance, a person can suffer from panic attacks at night. A stressful day can result in an anxiety attack at night. A person who recalls the unhappy events of the day will naturally find it hard to relax and can have certain panic-stricken thoughts that can lead to anxiety. Having sleep disorders such as sleep apnea that affects the heart beat as well as the blood pressure can make the person have disturbed sleeps at night. Sleeping and waking up continuously at…