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  • Am i being ridiculous about being worried about death and predictions of world endings?

    I panic over the thought of death, and these predictions of the world end this year is making it worse, my panics are more regular and im feeling more uncomfortable each week. I dont know how to control this :(
  • Currently having a panic attack...anyone around?

    I have them at night, usually right before I go to sleep, or immediately after I sleep I'll wake up with one. I've been dealing with panic on and off for about 7 years, starting when I turned 18. I take 1mg lorazepam when symptoms start, but sometimes I don't act quickly enough and start to get dizzy, my heart races, I can't breathe properly, my stomach hurts, etc. I took lorazepam about 15 minutes ago and am waiting for it to properly kick in so I can fall back asleep. In the meantime, this will be my first post on the q&a board: Anyone have any words to help?
  • Has anyone gone through Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)?

    For a while I realized there was something wrong with me. I mean, I've been diagnosed with Depression, Anxiety and Sex addiction, but I felt like I figured out some roots to all this. I couldn't figure out how to put it in words or what it was called though.

    I notice whenever I'm in a very emotional situation I don't handle it how "normal" people do. When it's me and I feel overwhelmed with emotion, I hide it. Sometimes it comes at the most inopportune moments too, like during a song or a scene in a movie. When it's someone else, I don't know how to react. I see others reach out and try to calm the other person, give them reassurance. I just awkwardly stand there, unsure of what to do for them, feeling awful that I'm not doing anything.

    I grew up with my mom and half-sister in my grandpa's house. My mom was a single mom and when she worked it was entry-level, low wage jobs. I'm not sure who this originated from exactly. If it was my grandpa's dad or my grandpa's parents in general or what, but my grandpa was not a very emotional man. At least... He never expressed his emotions. My family had an silent acknowledgement that we cared for one another, but we never said "I love you." I was never taught, told, or encouraged by them like my peers were. There was no sex talks or encouragement to get my driver's license. Of course I'd learned about these things in school, but those are far different and lack the intimacy of a parent.

    When I would go to friends' houses and see them hug their parents, tell their siblings "I love you," it was weird and foreign to me. I didn't understand that. I grew up thinking that was abnormal, not realizing it was really my family that had the dysfunction.

    I don't think I ever learned how to act appropriately. How to express how I feel in the right way or at all really. And something I've read in my findings about CEN that I'm afraid of now is emotionally neglecting my own children. I was in a relationship for years with their dad and he's told me time and time again how I'm not doing enough for them. He says I need to show them I love them. I do love my kids and I try to tell them I love them, but not all of it comes naturally and it makes me feel like a crap mom. All my mom friends reassured me that when my baby was born, I would just "know" what to do. But that feeling didn't ever come for me. I had to learn. I had to learn how to just love my kids. And I do, I love them and would never want any harm to come to them.

    I feel so estranged and messed up. And I can't get any therapy for this because I can't afford it. Did anyone else grow up with CEN? How did you handle it? How are you handling it now? What should I do? I hope someone out there can help me... I want to get over this. I wish I could just give my sister a hug or tell my grandpa I love him and know that I mean it and not be scared or second guessing myself.
  • How do I get the moderator to approve the groups I'm trying to make? I already tired to make 3

  • I'm stuck

    Lately I've been feeling stuck, like I'm not improving. I'm not getting worse either. But it seems like I've been doing better. But I'm not sure if it's because I am getting better and the working on myself is actually doing something. Or I'm only feeling like I'm doing better because the main trigger for my anxiety and depression is momentarily gone. I just don't know what to do. The working on myself is expressing my emotions and feelings more, and trying to reach out to my friends. I've been figuring out what Happens during an attack and what helps. I know myself pretty well in that area. But I want to be able to do more then just coping with it. I want it to get less. I only have no idea how
  • Looking for new friends..

    I'm in Canada, would like to have some new friends in the area. Anyone else from here? I'm going insane without any friends and I feel extremely isolated..
  • Not sure if its Anxiety or I am really sick

    Hello everyone, I recently joined this website because I was told that I have anxiety. It all started in the summer about a month and half ago when I woke up withj a bad stomach. I did not really think anything of it at the time, thinking it was just a bug, but that was until it lasted for a week. I started freaking myself out that I was actually really sick. I had abdominal pain,cramps, and had no appetite at all and when I tried to force myself to eat, I felt sick. I went to the doctor and he said to eat more fiber and it should past.In fact I did start to feel better until I went to Chicago with my friends where I felt very bloated and tired. I could not eat or drink and felt "gaggy." I then came home and got some rest for the next week where I found myself being extremely tired and achy. I then thought that I may have got Lyme Disease playing golf, so I went back to the doctor where they took a blood test.Everything came back normal. So being a little of a hypochondriac, I googled how accurate the lyme disease test are where I found that they are not reliable at all. I totally convinced myself that I had Lyme disease and at around this time, I developed a stiff neck, cannot sleep,dizzy, and shakiness. At this time I was totally telling myself that I have contracted Lyme Disease and read horror stories online of people who live with it for years without getting tested positive and having this disease ruin their lives. I went to a GI doctor, where he to ran tests and everything came back normal. I then went back to my normal doctor and he said he would give me Doxy for two weeks just in case it was in fact lyme disease. It was like a weight off my shoulders and I really thought I would be feeling better in no time. After about a week, I noticed that I did not get better at all. which is where I started to think that it was all in my head. I am currently in my second year of teaching and I am still experiencing symptoms such as shakiness, insomnia, stiff neck, weakness in my legs, ringing in my ears, dizziness, and muscle soreness. Is this all in my head and due to anxiety, or do you think I am actually sick? I am fearful of not being able to hold it together and having to quit my job. I had a great first year as a teacher and I would hate to have to give into whatever this is. Thanks
  • Pain relieves my anxiety. Help!

    When my anxiety starts becoming overwhelming the only thing I find that causes instant relief is hurting myself. I can't make myself stop and it's getting to a point where I am buying plasters like people buy cigarettes. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
  • Thinking about starting a local support group-any advice?

    There are absolutely no support groups within two hundred miles of where I am, and that's just sad. I'd really like to start one. I have a place and a time (conference room at my school, two hours once a month). I know how I'll advertise (I'm a teacher so I can advertise at my school, at the other schools in the district, and at the college here in town.) I'm also going to keep a running ad in the paper. I also want to call the local behavioral health centers and see if I can get some of the doctors to come and give presentations on certain topics, suggest strategies, etc. I'm also going to want to serve refreshments. I really want this to work-this current obsession is keeping my mind off of the depression/anxiety that is worse than it has been in months. Is there anything I'm forgetting? Anything I need to keep in mind? Do I need to advertise for a co-leader to help me out? This is as much for me as it is for other people who have nowhere to go and can't afford professional services (like me.)
  • Tongue Picking Problem

    I'm not sure if I have anxiety or ocd but am very skeptical that I do. I have an odd problem with picking/pulling off taste buds. Ive had this problem for as long as I can remember, i get so into it I dont even notice when I do it until my tongue is missing chunks and my fingers are bloody. Its so disgusting, unsanitary, painful, and just weird. I dont know whats wrong with me and i dont know how to stop.
  • Used to be close to my cousins

    I used to be close to my cousins, would have fun at family reunions and have the best time. Now, they don't talk to me, they ignore me and never ask me if I want to hang out with them. They adore one of my siblings though. When I see them with my sister and having fun and not inviting me, I just want to hide and cry because of how much they make me feel left out and unloved. I have social anxiety and get nervous around a huge group of people, I can't help it. My parents just assume I'm being a jerk, and need to be kind to them. My mom always forces me to talk to people and smile and act like I care, but honestly I don't and I'm too nervous to. My parents don't understand what social anxiety is I feel. Even one of my aunts said about me, "She has this look all the time, so I don't know if she's happy, sad, or mad. I try to stay out of her way and away from her." My cousins will never understand the pain I go through in my personal life. I can't call them family because they haven't always been there for me all the time, and I don't remember them ever saying they loved me to my face. How can I get my cousins to see me as a good person and not bad? I feel like we won't have a relationship in the future if we're gong to keep acting like this. Or is it just not worth it? Was it worth all those years of feeling empty, lonely, and left out and crying about it all those years? *NOTE*: I want some honest advice here. I have posted about this on multiple websites and no one replied to them or they gave me their personal experience, but didn't answer my questions. So please, if you have honest, great advice to give, please give it. If not, then please not say anything at all. Looking for great advice, please and thank you. :)

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