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  • Abuse and aftermath ?

    I have escaped an abusive childhood and now I am afraid of doing things on my own. I really want to go the cinema on my own, I have no friends or family but the primary reason is to allow myself to do things which I wasn't allowed to do and stop being afraid of what other think but I can't seem to stop thinking of how other would perceive it or if they will judge me like my parents - I have read on-line that it is weird and not normal but some say it is good because you pay for it and you can watch without interruptions. I keep thinking people are like my parents - analysing my every move and judging me. I want to discover new things and go places by myself but I can't because I don't want people to see me. How do I manage this feeling ? I am fine once I leave the house but it is having the courage and mental strength to convince myself to leave the house that is the problem and also I scratch myself if I am nervous and shy and I keep my head low but that makes me look weird and pathetic.
  • Advice

    Anyone have any advice on how to stop shaking, freaking out, and fearing the worst over nothing all the time..? Like my parents always, ALWAYS ask to see my phone and even though I know I have nothing to hide it becomes hard to breath when they're reading my texts or looking through my pictures. I just get scared because no matter what I do for them I never feel good enough and they always find something I do wrong when I think it's nothing..
  • anger

    does any body flip out when there is not a bathroom around?
  • Anxiety, Moods and just feeling flat. PLEASE HELP!

    Hey Guys, I am new here. And I am probably the worst when it come to going to the doctor about my symptoms. I know I suffer from major anxiety and have done for years. Panic attacks have somewhat calmed down and I am able to manage it. However 4 days ago, my husbands first time flying away in the mines and I became highly stressed days leading up to and 2 days after. It has made me feel tired, lifeless, dizzy, anxious, and overall low mood. I try to force myself to go to work, get kids ready for sports and so forth, I also find myself snapping and people and really overanalysing everything to the point where I get my stress levels elevated once again. However, prior to all of this, I seem to get this way for no reason either.. I am thinking it may be GAD?? And most of the time I have been excruciatingly anxious over my health, I think the absolute worst, that if I have a single symptoms, I think, what if I have cancer? My mind is playing total tricks on me, and at times due to all of this, I have recurrent negative thoughts that I feel as though I am going insane! It scares me even more and I get more anxious over the fact I feel this way cause I feel like I am going mental? Does that make sense? I am tired of it all. I refuse to take medication.... I have started on natural stuff to help me out. Brain fog is killing me, I feel so low and depressed. But yet I still go about my daily work? seems to come and go.. I also think its just part of having anxiety and worry and being highly stressed, also triggers this effect off as well. I also had 2 clients in my office (I am a banker) that have gone on about their children having major depression and the in depth detail - I become highly sensitive to all of this, I get depressed myself, I think its because I know I am prone to it? This is why I hate talking about this condition at times, it gets me all upset and feeling sad. I am felling like I am loosing control. :(
  • Anybody ever get tired of trying to reach out, so you just stop and hibernate instead?

    Lately my depression and anxiety has been a LOT worse... Ever since this summer started, and I started working full time and living with a couple roommates. My depression is so bad that all I want to do is hide in bed all day everyday... and if I didn't have this job, I probably would be doing that. I'm constantly on the verge of tears, irritable and just down... I see the doctor tomorrow, and will probably have to have my prozac dose upped. Anyway, Does anybody else get to that point where they just have tried talking to their friends and family about it so much, to get comfort and support (which they usually give), but you just end up stopping reaching out because your are afraid you annoy them, or you feel stupid, or you're just flat out too tired to try reaching out anymore? Because that's about where I'm at... I'm tired of talking about it and trying to explain what it's like... I just want to curl up in bed and hide from the world. Anybody else get this way? p.s. I'm not suicidal or anything like that. Just to be clear. I just have no motivation, lack of energy, and want to hermit.
  • anybody just hate small talk?

  • Anyone in Calgary, AB, Canada?

    Anyone local that just wants to have someone to talk to? Maybe take a walk in the park and chat or just have a coffee?
  • Best medication for social anxiety?

    I was wondering what the best medication for social anxiety for a sixteen year old would be? I have been on Zoloft before and it did not work too well.
  • Dating and social anxiety?

    Because of my anxiety and social awkwardness I've never dated or been in a relationship. In the past I've been told by guys that I am too sensitive or that my worrying is annoying. Now that I'm turning twenty I get anxiety over the fact that I've never had a boyfriend. Sometimes I feel like I'm being judged by family members because I'm not in a relationship and I feel really embarrassed. It's not that I don't want a boyfriend I just don't have any experience with relationships and I'm scared of rejection. Am I the only one going through this? Or if u have anxiety and are in a relationship what is your advice/suggestions? Thank you!
  • Dealing with friends that don't understand anxiety?

    Today my friend told me that my "alleged anxiousness is startling." This was super disappointing and the more I thought about it the more upset I got. He is one of my best friends, but as much as I try to explain to him what anxiety is all he can say is that he just doesn't get it. Should I just accept the fact that he will never understand or be offended that he thinks my anxiety is "alleged" and won't even take the time to understand the significant struggle I have gone through and am going through? I was on anti depressants for 6 years and have been off of them for 1. I still have to take Xanax when a panic attack comes on. The last one he witnessed. I get anxious in public places especially if I feel like I would be disappointing someone if I had to ruin the evening with a panic attack.
  • Did I do something wrong to someone, despite trying my best to be kind and respectful to them?

    Kids at my school are okay, to my perspective. But i always feel like i annoy them, or bother them. Whenever i attempt to make a new friend, i'll try to act the best i can. (as in being kind, respectful, etc.) but, most of the time, they don't seem to return the favor. I feel like i shouldn't have a problem with this, maybe they're having trouble socializing. but, i feel like i did something wrong
  • Do I suffer from anxiety disorder?

    Hey, can anyone respond me how to be sure that I am suffering from anxiety disorder? I mean I have gone through many online tests and they show I do have anxiety problems. But just curious to know if any medical test or such thing just for the sake of confirmation? By the way, I am male, 29.
  • Does anyone else struggle with anxiety making them feel like a horrible person?

    Does anyone else struggle with anxiety making them feel like a horrible person? I've noticed through talking with my therapist that anytime someone offers constructive criticism for instance or anytime my mom is even slightly irritated at me for some sort of behavior or something, it's like it overshadows everything else and all of a sudden I'm 100% awful and instead of it being this small thing my mom's talking to me about, it becomes this huge deal in my head like I'm just an all around bad person. I snap out of it eventually, but it takes a while and in that time I just feel worthless. I don't know if I can explain it better than that. I'm aware of it, but I also don't know how to prevent it.
  • Does anyone have trouble explaining their anxiety to friends/family/significant others?

    I sometimes have trouble trying to explain my anxieties to the people who are in my life. They are all super supportive, but recently have been asking what makes me anxious and what can trigger my anxiety. As I open up and explain certain things that make me anxious they don't understand how some things can make me anxious. Some examples are meeting new people, talking on the phone, and being in large crowds. I also have other small anxieties that come about in every day life. How do you try to explain your anxiety to the people you love and try to help them understand how you are thinking?
  • Does the people around you effect agoraphobia?

    Im wondering, and if so how are they?
  • Fear of bumping into people you know

    I was once teaching a class and experienced it for the first time. It was only the two of us, the student and me. I felt anxious and awkward, and almost passed out. I had to excuse myself and leave the room. Since then, it's gotten worse. Nowadays I am SCARED of bumping into people I know, even some friends. I get so nervous trying to think of things to say that I come off very nervous and awkward. My interlocutor notices I'm nervous and gets a bit nervous, too. Ugh, it's terrible. But the worst parts are initiating the conversation and especially ending it. I get SO nervous that I don't know what to say and I end up saying stupid things. It's really getting in the way. I have plans to apply for grad school but I'm afraid of how I'm going to fare in that environment if I have a mini heartattck everytime I see a professor or classmate. Does anyone have the same problem or has overcome it? Thanks
  • Fear of criticism & being around people?

    What has helped anyone on here to slowly break free of that self made prison? It's starting to consume my life 24/7 and I've read every self help book. Seen five therapists. Nothing has helped! I am willing and wanting to change but as soon as I'm around anyone I tense up and get the word someone used on here that really describes it..'mute-ism'
    I get tongue tied. Shaky. I'm out of ideas how to be the person I wish I could be. (Not worrying about what others say about me, being myself around people has never happened. I go into automatic pleasant and sweet mode) but feeling uncomfortable to be me around people for fear of criticism and rejection is really making me avoid going out to associate even if it is with my husband. He just doesn't. 'get it'. He is the opposite. Very comfortable with being himself in social situations. I watch him and I envy him. Also if anyone says anything hateful towards him he shrugs it off so easily while it eats at me for at least a good month. If I've done something I take responsibility but these are pretty hateful words coming from a couple of people I don't even know that well and have only seen here and there at church. :/
    So sorry guys for the long message. I'm on clonazepam and cipralex right now. Have had social anxiety and fear of rejection all my life. (28 now) been on every anti depressant and anxiety medication through and through growing up and well cipralex helps my mood..it doesn't help my anxiety at all. Clonazepam only keeps my panic attacks away when I feel them coming on.
    Goodness I hope this long message isn't overwhelming as my first question. I guess I have a lot more I need to ask than I thought!
    Love and healing to all.

    Nicole
  • Fear of public transportation and long journeys?

    I suffer from fear of public transportation, i.e busses, coaches, taxi's, trains, aeroplanes, and long journeys, and I was wondering if anyone else here suffers similar experiences from what I am about to write from bellow: I don't know how or why it started but I sure remember when. One of my ex girlfriends and i had a long distance relationship. We lived about four hours away from each other and we would both take it in turns to take the train to one another's houses and stay for a while. I was I think 14/15 years of age and had been suffering from severe depression and severe anxiety since I will say the age of 11 as that was when I was first officially diagnosed although I have always been an anxious person. Anyway, this one day it was my turn to take the train up to hers and for a while now the anxiety had been building on these journeys every time, and on this particular day something felt different, shall I say. I had boarded on to the train and I could see my Dad standing on the platform outside of my window and I suddenly just went berserk. I shouted through the window to my Dad, "I can't do this", and suddenly desperately needed the toilet and was hyperventilating, pouring with sweat, shaking uncontrolably, and I couldn't even talk! After i had been to the toilet about 10 times, I had been throwing up blood and blood was coming out from my behind also and suddenly everything went dark. I later woke up on the floor of the carriage of the train by the ticket guy and he called for help and I was taken off at the next station. I was so embarrassed and ashamed, I had to call my dad who luckily had not left the station after i had shouted to him "I can't do this" and came to get me straight away. I had to be taken to the hospital and get checked over etc, all to discover that I had IBS..? When I was a kid and would go on school trips, I never wanted to, i was too afraid but I was still made to go, and i would always throw up - embarrassing and shameful yet again for me and I would experience levels of anxiety but not to the level of the story up above. After that experience on the train, I tried going on to a bus. I had paid for my seat and the bus was about to set off, and I suddenly ran off the bus shouting to the driver to open the doors and let me off. And once again I was very embarrassed and ashamed. I had also tried to go on long journeys in the car back to my hometown, London, UK, Bournemouth where my auntie and cousin live, and other long journeys but that also got too much for me to bear. Every time I got anxious I would suddenly need the toilet without warning and would have to get my Dad or whoever was driving to pull over immediately in fear that I would soil myself. And now, at the age of 22, I still suffer from this. Even when I'm not going on a journey, as soon as I become anxious, I need the toilet immediately. My friends don't know about this at all, only my current girlfriend and my parents do. So when my friends ask me to go on a journey with them somewhere, I have to make up an excuse and lie to them. I hate having to do that. It has happened a lot when being in the car with my girlfriend going on a journey somewhere. Twice I have been in tears in the car because I thought I was about to soil myself. In my personal opinion of myself, and no one else, i feel that as a 22 year old man, I should not be suffering with this. I constantly tell myself "you know, you're not a kid, you're a grown man so start acting like one", and all other kinds of things. I am my own worst enemy at times, I do self sabotage a lot. I actually can't believe i'm writing this for all to see, but I need to know that I'm not alone and need any advice anyone can give me.
  • How can I interact with other members?

    How can I interact with other members of this social network?
  • How can i stop my anxiety when i eat out

    so every time i go out to eat or just eat with friends and my boyfriend i got so anxious that i just cant eat. it turns my stomach and makes me so nauseous that i just cant do anything and i am getting tired of this.

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