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Does anybody feel paranoid when talking to people?

I usually feel worried and paranoid of how others (even friends and family) are perceiving me while I'm engaged in a conversation with them. I use the word "engaged" loosely, as I have to try very hard to stay focused and endure a great deal of mental fatigue. I often find it hard to smile and tend to get shaky the longer the social interaction continues. It gets to the point where I wish I could turn and run away. I don't feel comfortable speaking with anyone for extended periods of time and I often take sarcastic remarks in a personal way; even when I know the said sarcasm is just a joke. I feel hopeless sometimes, and smoke to ease my nerves.
Category: Social Anxiety 7 years ago
SaintOner
Asked 7 years ago

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[b][i]Yes but mostly with people IDK![/i][/b]
Missy
Answered 7 years ago
Missy

I really dislike speaking with people. I have sever social awkwardness, evenwhen its with people I have know for many years. I feel like I have to escape. Then when the "conversation" is over and I am alone, I feel like I made a fool of myself.
nervousnelly103
Answered 7 years ago
nervousnelly103

[b][i]Yes but mostly with people IDK![/i][/b]
Missy
Answered 7 years ago
Missy

Being social wears me out. I can only put up with it for so long. It is very hard work. There are too many social conventions to follow. There is too much worrying about what to say , how to say it, what is the best thing to say, did I say something I should not have?, and trying to be honest but not hurt their feelings, not knowing how much to reveal about your thoughts and feelings. There are so many uncertainties and questions and not many answers at all. Its all an experiment and a risk and afterwards, you still might not know if you did the right things, and there may never be any way of ever being able to tell what is the right thing to do. Especially when the other person doesn't understand your feelings and how you get exhausted and want to be alone again, when they think you want to leave them or you are exhausted because 'you just dont feel well', this lack of understanding on their part is very painful and contributes to further the hopelessness that I feel about having anxiety!
OwlJulie
Answered 7 years ago
OwlJulie

I understand how you feel man. I'm constantly caught in between wonder and obsession of what others perceive of me, til the point I am mentally fatigued. I believe the way to overcoming some of our shared perceptions is to step back and look at the big picture. Take deep breathes and realize the person just wants to here your opinion. If you focus your mind on the topic of a conversation, you can communicate your ideas with a lot more ease. A light bulb might have gone off in your head reading this, or maybe not, but its worth trying. If not just try to keep the other person talking by asking questions. They will probably end up blabbering on, or if they are polite ask you questions which you then need to calm your nerves. I truly understand that this is easier said then done; which brings me to my second major point, smoking. If you mean cigarettes, try cut down to the point where you see the health benefits and give up. If you mean your having a relationship with mary-jane... end it. Weed causes people to over-think and may be a huge contributor to your mental fatigue. There's a reason they call it dope. Besides, using drugs or any substance as a means of relaxation is a recipe for disaster, because it can cause you to over think and worry and then you chase a fix to relax. Its a viscous cycle that can lead to substance abuse and dependency issues. In short my advice is to clear and refresh your mind through natural methods. Sign up for a sports team, watch comedies on tv/at the movies, read a news paper to talk about recent issues and find a buddy that you can communicate your problems with. It can be hard or you might feel it to be a daunting task but expressing your thoughts is one of the first steps of recovery. The next is to take proactive measures (consistently) to over-come this. I myself am still fighting the battle. Message me if you ever want to talk man, I am always all ears for people like me who just want to be heard so they can overcome their thoughts. Ps very serious about the bud, its just not good man. If you use it frequently its a short term high for a long term low.
theblankcanvas
Answered 7 years ago
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