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Anxiety and relationships?

Does anxiety get in the way of you entering relationships? I feel depressed a lot of the times thinking that my anxiety gets in the way of me meeting people. When meeting new people I immediately feel scared that I am no good for them; that they are getting more than they bargained for, because they'd find out about my anxiety and not care to know me anymore.
So many women worry about being attractive enough to other people, but I can't even worry about that because my anxiety is so much more of a pressing matter to me.
I'd really like to make some friends in real life who have similar problems with anxiety, who will share an unspoken understanding of things with me, who will understand that if I'm not excited to do something with them it's not because I don't want to, but it's because I am afraid of loosing control. I currently do not have any friends with anxiety, and it makes me feel pretty alienated. If anyone has had similar experiences or advice, I'd love to hear it. Thanks.
Category: Social Anxiety 7 years ago
lain5
Asked 7 years ago

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That is exactly what i go through too. But i have noticed that others are accepting of my anxiety and i tell them if it happens i just need to be reassured i will be ok. and i reassure them i am ok. lol
Melikafemme
Answered 7 years ago
Melikafemme

I've had more then one person recently telling me that my anxiety gives them anxiety and that I need to get it under control because its rubbing off on them. I end up having to keep things to myself because I'm worried I look crazy. I guess it's written all over my face so it's like even if I keep it to myself I'm evidentially radiating anxiety and people can just feel it off some sometimes. I hate it :(
Kaileidoscope
Answered 7 years ago
Kaileidoscope

This is me to a T. I've not been able to "make friends" since I was about 9 or 10 and since then my anxiety has increased exponentially. My social skills are horrible as well. When trying to meet new people I've often been referred to as a freak because I guess I can be very obnoxious and clingy. I've basically given up on the friends thing because I have nowhere to start and I'd be horrified if something bad happens again. I also don't feel like anyone would want to go through the trouble of putting up with me. I'm way more "work" than I'm worth. I'm a burden. So yeah, SA definitely gets in the way of me having relationships even though it's one of the things I want most. I'm 23. I have no friends and I've NEVER had a boyfriend (or girlfriend for that matter). I completely understand what you mean.
OneOddOwl
Answered 7 years ago
OneOddOwl

HI, im new to this site so forgive me for not having a profile picture and stuff yet. Im from The Netherlands by the way ,25 years old guy. Anyway i feel exactly the same as you guys, i have social anxiety for a long time now and especially when i talk to attractive girls because then i get this feeling that i have to be perfect. Every time i dont feel comfortabel around girls i get these negative thoughts that i will never get a girlfriend. I also have had some situations where a girl liked me, but i just felt to scared to get myself into a 'situation'. Anyway i understand you completely
Andi7
Answered 6 years ago
Andi7

i lost my girlfriend because i wouldnt go to public places like the movies or amusement parks it sucks because i just be happy with a nice girl who would accept my social anxiety but most do not
airman95
Answered 6 years ago
airman95

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