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Does anyone have trouble explaining their anxiety to friends/family/significant others?

I sometimes have trouble trying to explain my anxieties to the people who are in my life. They are all super supportive, but recently have been asking what makes me anxious and what can trigger my anxiety. As I open up and explain certain things that make me anxious they don't understand how some things can make me anxious. Some examples are meeting new people, talking on the phone, and being in large crowds. I also have other small anxieties that come about in every day life. How do you try to explain your anxiety to the people you love and try to help them understand how you are thinking?
Category: Anxiety 5 years ago
gflatley
Asked 5 years ago

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I had this problem. I wrote my parents a letter in which I tried to explain them that I have a problem, but I think they still can't understand it, so I guess I need to find a way to cope with it by myself. I also do understand it is hard for them to understand what I am going through, since they don't have anxiety problems, beside my mum, which is getting better now. I think they have enough problems to go worry about me too, they are worried in some sort of way, but I can't make them understand my situation, so all I can do is to take care of myself.
justme
Answered 5 years ago
justme

I often get the ' yeah I'm anxious too, but why you all depressed?!?' Or just pray, or I get yelled at because they feel their issues are bigger or more important. I'm not trying to be different or do I like being ill! Fuck! All I do is feel and its awful, and it just happens and I have no control!!!. I don't want to worry or feel tight all over or exhausted and awake all at once. I don't want to not sleep all night because I think something bad is gonna happen or be distrustful or angrey and sad and I can't hold on to anyone thought or feelings. No concentration or drive or release or peace.
Zev
Answered 5 years ago
Zev

I live with a man who says he is my best friend and wants to help me, yet doesn't listen when I tell him that his emotional abuse is the cause of my anxiety and ptsd. For the first 5 years we were together, he would hit me. I sent him to prison for that and it has stopped. Now if only the anger and emotional abuse would go away!
1crazymommy6
Answered 5 years ago
1crazymommy6

That's what support groups are for. Instead of those closest to you asking why are you anxious, (if I knew I'd fix it,) you are surrounded by nodding heads in agreement and understanding. I learned this in AA. My family are NOT alcoholics or substance abusers and they just couldn't get it. Same thing with anxiety and depression. At our last family get together I was trying to explain my issues with my very intelligent Father. His reaction was: "You look fine to me." If you get a chance read Daniel Smith's book "Monkey Mind. If you are like me you will feel like you are in his skin as he shares living and working with severe anxiety. Monkey Mind is a Buddhist term meaning "unsettled; restless; capricious; whimsical; fanciful; inconstant; confused; indecisive; uncontrollable".
searching for peace
Answered 5 years ago
searching for peace

It's tough...I had a Thai girlfriend who just couldn't understand why little things gave me panic attacks...and unless they experience it for themselves its hard for them to understand. I usually say something like... "The anxiety I feel is like the anxiety you would feel if you were threatened/on stage/etc. but that I feel that anxiety for no reason." I tell them I can't explain it but that my anxiety is real, whether or not it makes sense or not.
Taoist108
Answered 5 years ago
Taoist108

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