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Dating and social anxiety?

Because of my anxiety and social awkwardness I've never dated or been in a relationship. In the past I've been told by guys that I am too sensitive or that my worrying is annoying. Now that I'm turning twenty I get anxiety over the fact that I've never had a boyfriend. Sometimes I feel like I'm being judged by family members because I'm not in a relationship and I feel really embarrassed. It's not that I don't want a boyfriend I just don't have any experience with relationships and I'm scared of rejection. Am I the only one going through this? Or if u have anxiety and are in a relationship what is your advice/suggestions? Thank you!
Category: Anxiety 4 years ago
Alyak96
Asked 4 years ago

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Rejection is just a part of life everyone has to go through with, everyone goes through it and everyone has to deal with it sooner or later. I think the best thing is to just to try and get as much experience as you can with it and learn to be comfortable with it.
philip8830
Answered 4 years ago
philip8830

It's true we all go through rejection in our lives. However, I believe you have to be comfortable with that person and tell him about how difficult it is for you. He will be the right one if he accepts you for who you are and what you have. Good luck!!
amanda1617
Answered 4 years ago
amanda1617

I am also lonely from some time again, and I am 34...and, yes it is not easy, but anyhow my experience from before tells me that it is better to be lonely and very concious (also sure on your self worth) than to be with someone who do not appreciate you as a person. Actually anxiety has it's advantages as you learn to live with it...loneliness is not that bad. Know yourself girl, know your worth and than you will choose the right guy for you
justme
Answered 4 years ago
justme

I just wanted to say, that like everyone else who answered has said, rejection is apart of life, it is not fun to go through, but it happens. Now, that doesn't mean that always putting yourself out there is going to lead to rejection, but you also sometimes just have to come to the point that you accept it for what it is, a minor set back. If you never want to face rejection, the only way to do that is to never put yourself out there, but by the sounds of it that is not a choice you want to make. In terms of relationships, you're still very young, I'm only 25 and I'm still young. You have a lot of time to really worry about it, and really it's not something you should have to worry about. People telling you that you are too sensitive, or that your worrying is annoying is ridiculous. Those are not people that you want in your life to begin with, you want to find people in general who accept you. The truth is, family, people, friends, will always judge us, it's human nature. Try not to let that get to you too much, because it will happen. Everyone in life goes through it at their own pace. I haven't been in a relationship since I was a teenager, for much different reasons, but sure my family judges me for it, thinks it's strange, but I've got quite a bit of time to find someone. Best of luck to you.
anakin
Answered 4 years ago
anakin

I've just celebrated my 4th anniversary with my husband, and I suffer from fairly heavy anxiety. It's certainly not easy, and I spend a lot of time feeling guilty or childish for being "sensitive" or for crying more easily than I feel like I should. To combat the way anxiety can lead to isolation, I spend time trying my best to understand the reasons behind my anxious feelings, so that when they happen and I panic, I can explain to him what's happening, why, and how to deal with it best. Communication is key to any sort of relationship, and a relationship where anxiety rears its dumb face is no exception. The more you talk about what makes you anxious, the more you can work together to deal with it, or even start to work past it. It can be easy to feel ashamed of your nervous nature, and to tell yourself it's better to keep it to yourself and not worry any potential boy/girlfriends with it, but in my experience, this has always lead to more problems, not solutions. One thing I would suggest. While communication is great, don't go too far and lay your entire situation out on a first date. Take your time getting to know the person, and letting them get to know you, before you confide in them about your anxieties. It's a sensitive and personal topic, and it can backfire if you trust someone with these things too soon.
Malachyte
Answered 4 years ago
Malachyte

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