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Okay so this is a general question, because I need some opinions to show a friend. But I want to know: If I have had my trust abused for my entire life by people I call friends (such as they act friendly when they want something, but pretend not to know me otherwise) is it really unreasonable that I feel cautious about trusting anybody now? I told my friend that even though I will help her if she needs it, that she shouldn't mistake my kindness for foolishness, because I had problems trusting people fully, because of my past experiences. She then made the issue all about herself and how offended she was that "the fact that (I) put (her) on the same level as other people kind of hurts"... Basically, instead of even trying to understand where I was coming from, she flipped the issue around and made it about herself and how offended she was. All I want to know is.. what is right and wrong here? Am I right to be careful who I fully put my trust in, or am I wrong to call someone my friend if I don't fully trust them? At the same time, is she right that it's offensive of me to "put her on the same level as other people" or is she wrong to try and flip the issue into being about how me having trust issues is offensive to her?