Health anxiety is one of those issues that can really affect how we operate and feel during the day. Anxiety can sometimes feel that you are trapped in a world where you try to escape your anxiety on one hand and yet feel overwhelmed by the anxiety on the other. With so much conflicting emotion running through us, it can be difficult to know how best to tackle all these thoughts and beliefs.
I can remember when I had social anxiety, it felt like it was this suffocating feeling mixed with thoughts and beliefs that just wouldn’t shift. It took many years and much hard work on my end to make any headway, and even then I didn’t really know what I was doing. It can almost seem like you are the only one who understands what you are going through, and other people just don’t seem to get what is happening to you.
One thing I learnt was that other people have little time for those that moan and complain the whole time, and far less time for those of us who have issues that most people don’t understand like anxiety. However fortunately I did find a way to get over my anxiety, and become the master of my emotions. The truth is you and I both have the ability to be the master of our emotions. Ironically, we decide how we feel. We decide whether to let that person cause us anxiety or not. How do I know this... Well answer this question: ‘Who does this anxiety belong to?’ ‘Who decides to keep this anxiety or let it go?’
As you can see you decide to keep thr anxiety and the anxiety belongs to you. When I first learnt this, it was as if a lightbulb went off. I finally understood at a vague level that this anxiety belonged to me. I had always up to that point assumed that it was caused by other people, that somehow other people caused my anxiety. Do you see the subtle difference here?
One way you can let go of your anxiety is realising that the anxiety belongs to you. For the rest of the week when you get anxiety, or feel anxious ask yourself ‘Who does this anxiety belong to?’ ‘Who decides to keep this anxiety or let it go?’ When you go through this then make that decision to let your anxiety go. In next weeks post, I’ll look at this further and show you how I tackle those out of control beliefs. Have a perfect week and I’ll catch you next week.